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The Tyranny of Facebook Shares, and a Thank You note.

If you’ve been following my blog for a while (which you have, obviously, hence you chose to open the mail; Thank You!), you’d have noticed the posts have thinned out over the last few months.

There are a few reasons, which I’ll try to quickly surmise without boring you.

One, when I began writing, politics wasn’t a part of regular, everyday discourse. I was initially hopeful, as the emergence of politics in everyday debates could only be a good thing. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Today, political debate has been reduced to mud slinging and whataboutery. Left vs Right, Modi vs Kejriwal, Modi vs Ultron, Modi vs Anti Nationals. You have to be Left or Right, Black or White. Every morning, waking up is a pain because the first thing I see is the political outpouring of a guy I met six years ago over a chai and mirchi bajji.

I am slowly working on leaving Facebook, but till then, I’ll refrain from posting my blogs on Facebook. I don’t have it in me to argue with people over my views anymore. I’d be glad to discuss if you post a comment here, but I do not wish to be a part of the shallow, mud-slinging match that is going on.

The second reason is the ‘Performance’ aspect of posting something on Facebook. Before its advent, writing for me was just an extension of a journal, writing for writing’s sake. Gradually, Facebook helped my blog really boom, and it felt nice. People sharing your stuff, ‘tagging’ you, saying good things. But all’s well as long as you’re talking about Aamir Khan and Uday Chopra. As soon as you enter the marshy territory of politics, religion or social issues, my docile, fun-loving readers transform into sword-wielding online rioters. Slowly, lines are drawn, territories are demarcated, and shots are fired.

It has made me rethink my stances, question my beliefs. I have always held that beliefs are transient, they change and evolve. But these days, when I want to post something, I begin to wonder how X will take it, or Y, whom I met six years ago over chai and fucking mirchi bajji.

In the end, I decided to adopt a stance that a lot of sane minds across the world have adopted – Fuck Facebook.

I will not be posting stuff on FB anymore. And will try to post more regularly to the site. This is more liberating, since I don’t have to imagine X or Y while writing. It is more like writing into a journal in the old days. When it was just ink on paper, and the journal didn’t interact with you and give you a vague societal acceptance rating of the post. There was no Liking or Sharing, just Writing (and hiding from family and friends, because…well, India).

And finally, thank you, dear reader, for subscribing to my blog. I have never said this, but you are awesome. You, the reader who opens  mail in office, the one who casually visits the site every few days to see if there is a new post. I will be writing for you more often. Fuck Facebook.

Thank you.

30 thoughts on “The Tyranny of Facebook Shares, and a Thank You note.

  1. bastcilkdoptb

    I do agree with all the ideas you’ve presented in your post. They’re really convincing and will certainly work. Still, the posts are too short for starters. Could you please extend them a little from next time? Thanks for the post.

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  2. Laavanya

    I hear you on the whole disconnecting from facebook. For me, personally, I stopped doing that because in the end I’m writing for myself. I don’t want to write with the thought of writing to publish on facebook.
    Thank you for some good reads!

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  3. Bhavi

    I might’ve disagreed with you on a couple of posts (from the left campaign) but I think on sexist issues. I’ve also loved your posts on the exact same subject matter. So yes, nothing is black and white 🙂 Still think you’re hilarious and adorable.
    Anyway. Boss, we’re all there with you and we support you! By we, I’m also talking about my entire fucking family which has subscribed to your blog on email. (on my recommendation, of course). Fuck facebook.
    And hope you feel better.

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  4. Shai

    Yes there are a few like that but it is sane too to a large extent, we can critique the govt though we are admirers of Modi… we would like to find stuff to appreciate with the Cong… but… oh so difficult…. anyways what is your FB id, have never posted on your post there but maybe would like to see the crazies you are meeting online!! LOL

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    1. Hriday Ranjan Post author

      True, Facebook has provided a platform for putting across your point. But things are sane only till you’re interacting with people who agree with you. What I’ve found is that as soon as there are people with diverse ideologies involved, things get ugly very quickly. As for my FB profile, I haven’t engaged in a FB battle for a few months now, I’ve been trying to wean myself off the habit lately! 🙂

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    1. Hriday Ranjan Post author

      Haha, thank you. But I have been engaging in Facebook wars for a few years now and have decided to hang up my boots. So when I come back to make a point, I seem awkward and disjointed, like Amitabh Bachchan in ‘Bade Miyan Chhote Miyan

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  5. Sweha Hazari

    Please don’t leave facebook. Okay I do have your contact details but I fell in love with your blogs there….. and your one -liners :/

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    1. Hriday Ranjan Post author

      I meant I’ll stop posting my blogs there. I unfortunately can’t leave Facebook cos of the stand up scene. Even though I’d love to.

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    1. Hriday Ranjan Post author

      Hahaha. It’s a sad little Facebook page that has seen some action recently due to the series of Jackie Shroff memes. Have been trying to keep it active like some sort of a UNILAD page, and failed miserably.

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  6. a fan

    Can relate to every single word written. Never seen anyone change his/her view in an online discussion, it’s almost as if we read to react and not to understand 🙂 Keep writing!

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    1. Hriday Ranjan Post author

      Hai na? Me, neither. And the sadder part about online debates is that people are rigid about their stances, firm as fundamentalists. For eg. as a left-winger, you cannot say ANYTHING positive about Modi. Similarly, if you’re a Right winger, you have to nurture a strong hatred for Kejriwal. The discussions have all become polarised and Black-and-White. Sucks!

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