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Guest Blog: Tushar – “A Raksha Bandhan Message”

tusharDear friends,

Things like culture, religion and custom are generally seen as relics of the past. They are mocked at, looked at like dinosaurs. Many of the younger generation mock these customs and beliefs.

But I have always believed in them.

I am not going to be lecturing you about anything. I have three stories to tell, that’s it. Just three stories – no big deal. And then I am positive I can convince you about the importance of our culture and their customs.

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1. I am an actor.

I know what you are thinking. You probably giggled when you read that. I wouldn’t blame you if you did.

I entered the industry amidst the Sunnys, Salmans, and Sanjays. I was not beefy. It’s debatable if people found me good looking or not. The Hindi film industry was waking up to the mega-glosser family entertainers that did huge business.

When I came in, people wrote me off. But I went all out. I even took off my shirt even though conspiracy theorists said it was surrogate advertising for KFC. It wasn’t. It was hard work and persistence. I had nothing to say.

When my first film did well, I learnt that hard work pays. I knew I could stand tall amidst the heroes. I had something to say. As did my debut film – Mujhe Kuchh Kehna Hai.

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Now, heroes’ sons have come and gone. There was Kumar Gaurav, who in spite of huge hits, vanished into oblivion. Shadaab Khan, Fardeen Khan, Harman Baweja – countless such examples. It is easy to do well in one movie, but the important bit is hanging in there. Not giving up.

Now, I have always believed that a person’s personality is often reflected in his body of work. It is, ultimately, what he is – his body of work, a legacy that he leaves forever. I am not the kind to insinuate anything, but look at the names of Shiney’s films – Sins, Gangster, Hazaron Khwahishein Aisi. Just saying.

Me, I was always trying. When people talked about lack of any screen presence, I capitalised on that and made Gayab, when they said that the only challenge to me in the film was the village well, I did Shart: The Challenge. When people said there was something about me, I did Kuchh Toh Hai.

Kuchh nahi tha

Kuchh nahi tha

And finally when they said I came across as dumb handicapped, I did Golmaal.

I had to adapt. I am after all, a human. (I also did a film called Insaan, by the way).

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It’s not easy to hang in there. It is difficult.

It is difficult when your Facebook fan page has 1285 Likes. When you are trying to search for ‘Tushar Superstar’, and Google suggests you to the LinkedIn profile of one Tushar Supekar, Project Engineer at Aarti Ind. Ltd. When you check your Wikipedia page and realise that you had started your career with Kareena Kapoor and your latest heroine is Celina Jaitley.

When people say that your dance looks like you’re fighting and your fighting looks like a dance. You question yourself. You begin to ask yourself if what you’re doing is the right thing.

But all you need is that final push. That one comment that goes ‘Hey Tushar! I love you. Accept my friend request. <3 Isha from Bokaro’.

You need to hang in there.

And this is the third final lesson. It is important hang in there.

For every Aggar, there will be a Dirty Picture

For every Dhol, there will be a Shor in the City

For every Yeh Dil, there will be a Shootout at Lokhandwala.

So when all the odds are stacked against you, how do you survive? What keeps you going? I will leave you with that question. 

Be nice to your sisters. Tie rakhis, give gifts. It might just change your life!

Lots of love,

Tushar Kapoor.

Rakhi ka Insaaf

Growing up, Raksha Bandhan wasn’t such a big deal, more so in a boarding school. You were told stories of Krishna and Subhadra, and when you got rakhis from home, the teachers would tie them to your hands. If the rakhis came off sometime during the day, you’d approach a friend to tie it back on, and he’d promise to protect and take care of you.

It was only later that I realised that Raksha Bandhan is actually quite a big deal. Especially after Dairy Milk made those ads for Raksha Bandhan. I never understood why those Dairy Milk ads are considered go great. And now they have ads for every occasion – childbirth, passing an exam, Diwali, and Raksha Bandhan. And once Dairy Milk makes an ad, you’re not Indian enough if you don’t do it.

So Raksha Bandhan has become an event to buy some chocolates and fleece some money, depending on your gender. But a rakhi is not just a symbol for protection. If used judiciously, it is the greatest weapon in the hands of a girl.

In India, a girl is subjected to cheesy lines, eveteasing, and ‘fraandship’ requests throughout the year. After all this, Raksha Bandhan is retribution day for girls.

Is a guy hitting on you? Want to get rid of him once and for all?

Buy a rakhi and tie it to his wrist. Preferably in front of other people, and you’ve sealed the deal. Even if the guy forgets it and starts hitting on you back again, his friends will remind him that he is your brother!

I know guys on whom rakhis have worked wonders. The guy would hit shamelessly on the girl, and then on that fateful day, the girl would tie a rakhi to him. Bas. The guy would stop hitting on her with immediate effect. Not only would he stop looking at the girl “us nazar se”, he’d stop others from doing so.

“Abey kya kar raha yaar? Behen hai woh, meri” With one swipe, you have wiped off an entire group of perverts.

This transformation from hounddog to protective brother, just by tieing a thread, has always amazed me.

However, there is no guarantee that you can go and tie a rakhi to all the perverts in the world. The internet has a fix for that too. You need to follow three simple steps to achieve the desired result:

1. Log in to Facebook.

2. Download an image of a nice, big, shiny rakhi from the internet

3. Tag all the morons hitting on you.

Every year on Raksha Bandhan, there is one custom I follow. Log in to facebook, check who all have tagged you on rakhis, and “remove tag” from all the online rakhis. There is no shame in admitting to it, we all go through it. Statistics have revealed that at any given point of time, there are at least seven people in the world who think you are hitting on them.

The trick is not to panic, stay calm, and untag yourself. Unless of course, you have received a rakhi from Rakhi herself. Then, you need help.

But if you are a girl, and know how to use it judiciously, a rakhi can ward off evil eyes from evil guys. Happy Raksha Bandhan!